The 4 Communication Styles: Which One Do You Have? [Quiz]

Nayomi Chibana

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Nayomi Chibana

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We all have different communication styles. Think about your workplace. There's the colleague who always pats you on the back, brimming with energy. Then there's the coworker who likes to keep to himself and nods every time he sees you in the hallway; and your HR manager, who rarely has a negative thing to say about anyone. Then there's your boss, who speaks loudly and dislikes chitchat.

What we've just described are the four styles of communication. According to Dr. Tony Alessandra, PhD, author of Charisma: Seven Keys to Developing the Magnetism that Leads to Success, the key to communicating effectively is to recognize that not everyone has the same communication style you do.

We've all heard of the Golden Rule: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." The problem is that this doesn't really work. Would your introverted colleague like to be greeted effusively? Probably not. Would your no-nonsense boss like to engage in a pleasant conversation on favorite movies? Also not likely.

Many of the conflicts and misunderstandings that arise between coworkers actually have to do with differences in communication style. In order to ensure that the messages you're sending are being interpreted in the manner you intended, learn about the four different communication styles and how to relate to each one.


The Four Communication Styles

Based on previous theories of human interaction--such as Hippocrates "four temperaments" and Carl Jung's psychological types--Alessandra has mapped out four communication styles on four quadrants, as seen below.

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While the vertical scale determines the person's level of openness in relationships, the horizontal scale measures the person's level of directness. To better understand how you can position yourself on each axis, let's review what we mean by each term.

An open person, for example, refers to someone who tends to reveal personal feelings and experiences and values interpersonal relationships. This type of communicator makes eye contact and is not afraid to reach out and touch the other person.

The reserved person, on the other hand, is harder to get to know since they do not readily express their personal thoughts and feelings. To detect a reserved person, observe how far they stand from you when they talk--reserved people are most comfortable when they maintain a certain distance from you--and how they shake your hand when you first meet them.

A direct person is someone who is not afraid of forging ahead when it comes to building new relationships and meeting new people. In contrast, an indirect person prefers feeling safe in social environments. In a social event, for instance, a direct person would not hesitate to go around and socialize with all those they meet along the way. Meanwhile, the indirect person could be found talking with a close friend in a quiet corner of the party.

To determine your communication style, simply mark where you land on each of the two scales and see where they intersect. The resulting quadrant corresponds to your dominant communication style. Although most of us have a combination of styles, we usually fall under one prevailing style. If not sure, take a few minutes to complete the following quiz to find out:


Let's take a look now at the main attributes of each of the communication styles and how to relate to each one:


1 Director

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This communication style is driven by two things: the need to get thing done and the need to control. They are most comfortable in settings where they manage others and take control of situations. Fast-paced and goal-oriented, Directors are focused on bottom-line results and achieving success. This go-getter mentality makes them innate leaders, but it also means they can come across as impatient and insensitive.

How to Communicate with a Director

  • Be clear, brief, fast, and precise. Be well-prepared to provide solutions to their problems.
  • Skip the small talk and get down to business.
  • Highlight key points. Avoid going into too much detail.
  • Find out their goals and provide options with clear costs and benefits.
  • Supply concrete data to back up claims of progress. Show how goals have been obtained.


2 Socializer

socializer 4 communication styles quiz

Most people love socializers. They are fun to be around, always make others laugh, and they thrive on being the center of attention. Charismatic and energetic, they always want to be where the action is. They are eternal optimists who are good at selling others on their vision and goals. Although their enthusiasm and charm make them influential people, as leaders, they can sometimes be impulsive decision-makers who take risks without verifying information. They listen to their intuition--which can be a good thing--and what their "gut" is telling them. On the downside, they have short attention spans, and they find it hard to be alone.

How to Communicate with a Socializer

  • Take time to build a relationship and socialize with them.
  • Create a fun, lively atmosphere with new and diverse elements.
  • Help them make a list of priorities, but try to skip the unimportant details and boring material.
  • After a meeting, be clear about who is going to do what and by when. Put everything down in writing.
  • Make them look good in front of others. Be slow to criticize them. Instead, motivate them with praise.
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3 Thinker

thinker 4 communication styles quiz

This communication style is very analytical and geared toward problem-solving. Methodical and detail-oriented, Thinkers are usually slow decision-makers who are very deliberate about the choices they make. Before taking a specific route, they do their homework by weighing pros and cons and looking at problems from every angle. Their high expectations of others and themselves can make them come across as overly critical and pessimistic. They are perfectionists by nature and can easily fall into the trap of "analysis paralysis." Since they tend to be skeptical, they usually want to see promises in writing.

How to Communicate with a Thinker

  • Avoid too much small talk and socializing.
  • Go slow and give them time and space to think things through.
  • Be well-prepared to answer their questions thoroughly with precise data.
  • Put everything down in writing.
  • Make good on your promises.


4 Relator

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Of the four communication styles, this one is the most people-oriented. Relators are warm, nurturing individuals who value interpersonal relationships above all other things. They are very loyal employees, devoted friends and excellent team players. Peacemakers by nature, they often avoid conflicts and confrontations. They are also ideal team players since they are always willing to build networks and share responsibilities. Like Thinkers, they are thorough planners and highly risk-averse. They value reliability, balance and sincerity.

How to Communicate with a Relator

  • Be patient and show sincere interest in them as a person.
  • Build a relationship and learn more about their personal lives before getting down to business.
  • Reduce their fears by clearly explaining how a certain change will benefit them and those around them.
  • Be predictable and follow through with your stated promises.
  • Be warm and inviting. Focus on their feelings.
  • Don't ever push them into a corner to get what you need.


Your Turn

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    About the Author

    Nayomi Chibana is a journalist and writer for Visme’s Visual Learning Center. Besides researching trends in visual communication and next-generation storytelling, she’s passionate about data-driven content.

    57 responses to “The 4 Communication Styles: Which One Do You Have? [Quiz]”

    1. John says:

      I can’t respond about this article, because I think it is too political. Next time try using some regular people or cartoon images. You left out some candidates. Who are you voting for?

    2. Jessica says:

      Just wanted to let you know in the diagram at the top, you use “Analyzer” and the quiz results used “Thinker.” I figured it out (as the Thinker that I am), but thought I’d let you know!

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    4. David Secor says:

      fun and quick

    5. Rychee Vetor says:

      I would like to add the communication style quiz to training I am hosting .. The political pictures would not be appropriate. Do you have a electronic/printable version of the quiz that I could pass out during the training session.

    6. Nancy Foltz says:

      i cant comment about this article

    7. Joelle Meric says:

      Hi, looking at the diagram I wonder if the descriptions of Relator and Socializer should be swapped…

    8. sherry says:

      The quiz becomes unavailable….

    9. Ann says:

      Where is the quiz?

    10. Suzanne says:

      Hi where do I find the quiz?

    11. joyce says:

      Where do I find the quiz?

    12. lori says:

      great quiz

    13. Truman Eby says:

      Thanks for this helpful quiz. In the diagram, I believe the captions Socializer and Relator are swapped. The content in the quadrants is correct for the vertical and horizontal scales described.

    14. Nick says:

      Hi, the quiz has disappeared and I really want to use it with my team, can you repost it?

    15. JILL RICH says:

      I would like to have a PDF version of the quiz to try on a group of staff members. Is that possible to get? Thanks, Jill

    16. Patrick Conroy says:

      Can you email me the link for the quiz? Please and thank you. Loved the article!!!

    17. Jody Fox says:

      i believe I’m a director

    18. Jason Haught says:

      Would love to use this quiz but it says it’s no longer available? Any chance we can get it back?

    19. E says:

      I was able to access the quiz last week. But now, I cannot locate the link. Can you please advise? I would like to review with my team. Thank you!

    20. Dawn Allen says:

      I have done the quiz twice now
      its not letting me move on after taking part in the quiz its not marking it as complete

      • Payman Taei says:

        Hi Dawn. I’m not sure what the problem is as we’ve just tested the quiz and completed it successfully. Can you please refresh your page several times and try it using Google Chrome browser? If it still does not work, please let us know at [email protected] so we can look into it further.

    21. Darlene Dillard says:

      I see the bold heading that says quiz but clicking on it is doing nothing. How do I access it so that I can take the assessment for a class?

    22. Duncan says:

      Yes the presentation went a bit wrong here

    23. Virginia King says:

      I knew nothing about communication styles or that I even had one. Interesting results, I am a Relator, the description is spot on about how I communicate. Learning about the other communication styles was interesting too, helps in understanding how and why people communicate the way they do.

    24. Charlotte says:

      It looks like the quiz is down.

    25. Viswa says:

      Very helpful content and definitely worthy. It turned out that I am a Relator, I cannot disagree. I appreciate the cheat code – how to communicate – with different types of people. Thanks for putting up this content!!

    26. Romain Delalande says:

      commenting on the following part : “While the vertical scale determines the person’s level of openness in relationships, the horizontal scale measures the person’s level of directness
      I do not understand how the analyzer and director fit the “more open level in relationships”, could you please explain a bit on this ?
      Thank you

    27. Susana Cruz says:

      no comments at this time

    28. lorraine says:

      i didnot ralse different styles found it very interesting

    29. Liliana Sera says:

      Thank you for this simple yet informative quiz and related write-up. I like that you have included ways to communicate with the different styles too. Is there a version of the quiz I can use for my team? I would love for them to do this.

    30. Sherri R says:

      Hello! I would like to share this with my team. How is it best to give them the link to your article and the quiz?

    31. Susan Hopper says:

      I also can’t find the quiz. I have refreshed and am using Google Chrome.

    32. Annette Barbeau, Manager says:

      Thank you

    33. Abby says:

      i’m a socializer i take the time to build relationship and socialize , i create a fun lively atmosphere with new divers elements , i help make a list of priorities but i try to skip the unimportant things

    34. MJ BEEF says:

      yoh i didnt realize that im a socializer

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